Facebook is full of drama queens. When people get on there to complain about their spouse or significant other, it's NEVER their fault, always the other person. Then come out their fans, who LIKE their stupid post. Or, even better, offer typed affirmation.
"Marriage/relationships are A LOT of work!" That's a lie. I've been with my husband for 18 years and it's been MINIMAL work. We love each other, and support, honor, cherish. That makes our marriage VERY easy. We have the same core belief system.
We argue. ALOT. He's a die-hard Republican. I'm more Libertarian. He loves hockey and hunting and guns. I love shopping for deals and chatting with my friends. We both love to spend time at home after work or with our grandson. He puts in our garden each spring and I spend many summer nights and weekends tending it. We enjoy Sunday breakfast together. Some nights, I cook; other nights, he does and even on other nights, it's "fend for yourself."
When our daughter got married, I told her to "deal with it." She's a good person and so is he. Nobody is perfect. Live and learn. What seems like a big deal today could end up being one of your biggest laughs tomorrow. Don't base your marriage on "romance," like roses and champagne. Appreciate the little things, like when he takes out the garbage.
I know couples who have been in counseling since BEFORE they married because they "want to make it work." That's a HUGE clue right there! IMHO, 5 years of individual and couple's therapy is NOT a successful relationship. Shame on them for then bringing children into the mix!
Drama queens all want to be The Victim. They believe they are pefect. They pretend to give and give and give, all for NOTHING in return. Wanna bet?