Monday, January 21, 2002

5 Common Stupid Marriage Ideas

These, in my honest opinion, are almost doomed to fail, especially since they are highly touted in most women's magazine as wonderful ideas.

1. "Date night"
The goal - to bring back the fun of courtship and make you a happy couple by getting away from the kids/work for an evening each week.
The reality - who decides what the date entails? who lines up the sitter? Guess what? It tends to get pretty boring having to be creative so much.

2. "Be romantic." (aka. you used to send me flowers, etc.)
The goal - to make each other feel special or appreciated.
The reality - it's usually one person doing it all, while complaining and comparing what they have done to what the other person has not.

3. Making your spouse your best friend.
The goal - to live happily ever after.
The reality - "best friend" is not synonymous with spouse. Would you ditch your best friend if he/she suddenly sold all their possessions, quit their job and decided to move into an Amish community? Bet not. Hey, it would be cool to visit each summer, right? Now, take your spouse doing that...if you run, you'd not only lose your spouse, but your BEST FRIEND.

4. "Everything should be 50/50."
The goal - everything is shared equally.
The reality - it's impossible. One person will always be doing more, whether it is housework, paying bills, working at their job or child-rearing, marriage is never 50/50.

5. Celebrate every anniversary (aka. when we met, where we first kissed, etc.)
The goal - to remember every step of your courtship.
The reality - this reeks of junior high...do you celebrate the first time you both smelled "morning breath"? How about your first argument? Nah.

Sunshine - Walking on Sunshine - 1/21/2002 04:18:00 PM

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