Tuesday, August 07, 2012

Upset my best friend from high school who was freaking out about a tumor they found on the side of her face, exactly the same thing I had removed 16 years ago! Interestingly, she had a "full-body MRI" done last Tuesday, she never said what kind of dr ordered it, so I'm guessing her . Last Thursday, she had a tumor removed from her breast (which she's known about since before Karina's wedding, so it wasn't tied to the MRI) and Friday morning, she said she already had the results and they were inconclusive for cancer. Not a biopsy, but the full tumor was removed as an outpatient at the lil hospital where you spent time when you lived here. Then, Friday night, she started talking on our private FB page about this new surface tumor. Hers isn't even 1/2" big, but she said they must slice her face 6" and she'll have a huge scar and need plastic surgery and will need to put fat in because her face will be lopped. Mind you, the 1st post said she had to find a dr for the surgery! As of this minute, she still doesn't have a dr or surgeon. I'm confused who gave her this info, because when I went to my Doc, he got me right in for surgery the following week. Remember, it was my hub's bday. I tried to calm her by saying even way back then, it was an outpatient procedure and I was fine same-day, but she threw back that SHE was told (again, by I don't know who) that she'd probably be hospitalized for several days and there will be "drainage issues." I looked up my doc and he's semi-retired in Florida. Her tumor is much smaller than mine and wrapped around nerves, so if the surgeon has any skills, she WON'T have drainage issues! Or maybe I'm not understanding something. She seems upset that I have personal experience with it. I remember hearing that I could end up deaf in that ear or blind in that eye or never be able to smile again IF HE CUT WRONG. There's a part of me that just doesn't believe this tho. I'd be freaking out about an "inconclusive" on a breast tumor, but she's totally off that now. Since the beginning of the year, she's had 5 or 6 "scary diagnoses" that never pan out. I'm not wishing they would, but it seems like she forgets them. Kinda like not having a tumor removed that she knows is there since May (and her 1st cousin was just diagnosed with breast cancer.) I'm not sure if it qualifies as hypochondria? Her life is filled with taking care of her family and taking them to doc appts. It seems like she's trying to be a martyr, but this is her way of getting attention from her friends. Because only a few of us know about it, but interestingly, not her super-good friend who is a nurse. And I've noticed when this is going on, she keeps us away from her husband and daughter or swears we won't bring it up in front of them because they get so upset. Oddly, conversation about her Crohn's, which she's had several surgeries and probably will need another in a year or 2, is fine and dandy. Did I mention her daughter is going back to college in a few weeks? And she will be left to take care of her severely disabled 18 YO son all day, most days, while her hubs works.

Sunshine - Walking on Sunshine - 8/07/2012 07:57:00 AM

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